The Basics

In order to wed another player, you must have a ring and a witness and visit the church. Both intended spouses and the witness must be in Torn for the ceremony.

The Ring

You can obtain a ring through several different means:

  • A purchase from the Item Market
  • A purchase from the Jewelry Shop
  • Successfully performing a four-nerve crime, Shoplift a Jewelry Store

Note that shoplifting may return a watch, necklace or ring, and there is a high risk of being jailed.

There are currently four rings that can be used for proposals: Diamond ring, Gold ring, Sapphire ring, and Plain silver ring. See the Jewelry Store for more details on rings.

The Proposal

After acquiring a ring, you can propose to someone by going to the ring in your inventory and selecting "use" from item actions. This will prompt you to enter the name of the intended spouse.

The person to whom you've proposed will receive an event and have an option to Accept / Reject your proposal. Once the proposal has been accepted, the marriage status of both players changes to "Engaged".

Should you wish to cancel a proposal to another player you can do so by going to the church and clicking "View Proposals".

The Witness

You may invite more than one person to witness your wedding, though you are only required to have one. To obtain a witness, you must both visit the Church after you are engaged. Here you will each have the option to add witnesses. The witnesses must be selected off of your Friends list, and the witness must accept the request in order to be considered a valid witness. Players who are traveling, in hospital or in jail cannot accept.

Note: After accepting the request, the witness receives an event suggesting that they send a wedding gift to the happy couple.

The Ceremony

Before the ceremony concludes at the Church , you each have to profess your marriage vows. This can be a sincere message or you can simply enter some filler text. Any entry will suffice. Once this has been done you can complete the marriage by clicking the 'kiss' button. Each spouse will then have their marriage status changed to "Newlywed".


To end a marriage, either player may divorce the other. You may not divorce until you have been married for at least 7 days. Divorces are granted by going to the City and visiting the Church.


One of the benefits of marriage is the ability to share a property. Either player may move into a property owned or rented by the other player. However, the owner of the property has the ability to kick his or her spouse out of that property. Your spouse may not kick you from a property that you own. Spouses are unable (by default, can be changed) to access vaults on the other properties.

Vault sharing was introduced on 29/09/2015. The owner of a property may choose to share or not to share their vault with their spouse (the default is not shared). The last 10 actions of the vault are stored in the vault log accessed via property/vault.

Related Awards

Honors and Medals can be earned by staying married to the same person for increasing amounts of time.

Below is a list of Marriage related honor bars;

Marriage related honors

Honor Bar Image Name Requirements
431464057.png Fascination Stay married for 250 days
636752583.png Chasm Stay married for 750 days
507297243.png Stairway To Heaven Stay married for 1,500 days
501001885.png Deadly Duo Defeat someone with your spouse
948029275.png Lovestruck Defeat a married couple

A list of marriage related medals can be found here


An issue is sometimes caused with your account stating that you are already proposing to someone when you are not. If this is the case, then submit a Bug Report and wait for a staff member to fix the issue for you!

  • It is unknown whether or not this has been fixed with the release of RESPO.

Historical Notes

  • The Church was added on 23 June 2014 (Respo update) which changed the way you get married.

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